Getting Divorced? How to Get Through the Tough Days, and Keep the Good Days Good

If you’re going through a divorce, it can sometimes be easy to feel like you’re riding an emotional roller coaster. In one minute you can be feeling free and happy about your decision, while in the next moment, you hit a bottom. It’s normal for your feelings to shift as you go through the grieving process. In many ways, letting go of a tough marriage can be similar to seeing a loved one pass away who suffered from a serious and painful illness. Mixed feelings are common. You can feel relieved that the suffering is ending, even as you find yourself missing your partner.

Some days will be harder than others. Here are some ways to get through the hard days, and keep the good days good.

           

·         Set boundaries about when you’ll deal with your divorce. According to Business Insider, you should definitely plan to filter messages from your divorce attorney, and deal with these issues after work. Set aside times and days when you’ll discuss legal matters or meet with your ex to finalize your divorce. Giving yourself space to grieve, live, and work, is important to staying healthy as you move forward into a new stage of your life.

·         Stay involved. Grief can cause us to retreat. Instead, make plans to meet friends for coffee or lunch. While it might make sense to take a few days or a week off work when you are most raw, throwing yourself into work can give you a sense of purpose and ensure that you have money to support yourself when you’re on your own. Keep to a regular work out routine and consider joining a new group or interest organization. Divorce can often result in fractured friendships and awkwardness. While you’ll want to maintain your friendships, it can also be liberating to meet new people and to try new things.

·         Have a public relations speech. You’ll likely get questions from co-workers or other people in your life. While you might want to share the harder details with friends or family, you’ll also want to prepare a speech for other people in your life who may not need to know about every infidelity or problem you had. After all, you don’t want to end up sobbing in front of your boss by the water cooler. The speech can be simple. Take a look at some of the press releases used by celebrity couples when they split, if you’re not sure where to start.

·         Find a good lawyer.  According to Woman’s Day, the wrong lawyer can lead to a poor settlement. Find someone you can trust, who listens to you, who understands and respects the kind of divorce you’re seeking, and who offers clear answers to your questions. Take a look at bank accounts, property, and shared resources and make sure to take time to realistically plan what it’s going to cost when you’re living on your own.

·         Plan for the holidays. Many people find that the holiday season is more difficult than they anticipated. Plan to spend time with family or treat yourself to a nice vacation.

The days, weeks, and yes, sometimes even years, after divorce can be challenging. Planning ahead and having the right people on your side can make all the difference in the world. The family lawyers at the Law Officesof Abbott & Abbott, P.C. can help you plan for your future.

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